Ok so I love my boyfriend, I ve been with him for 10 months now and we re pretty serious, we have discussed moving in with each other in the future when the time is right but one thing about him really worries me. He s always coming up with business ideas and not following through, a few months ago he wanted to open a pub--he talked about it incessantly for about 2 months non stop until I just couldn t take it any more and persuaded him to hold off on the idea until he has some money. I thought that was the end of it. Then after that he wanted to start a skip company business--he stuck with it for a few months and then abandoned it this week. Now he wants to open a car parts shop..........he just came up with this idea today and rang me at lunchtime, all excited. I just said to him he should weigh up all the good and bad points to opening a shop and he replies by saying there are no bad points baby ........he s completely naive when it comes to running a business and I don t know how to say it to him without crushing him!!!!! I do want to believe in him but it s very hard when it s a different idea every week. I just wish he would grow up and look at things logically! Any ideas on what I could say to him to make him see the error of his ways? I don t want to make him give up his dream of being successful but I think he has to get real and if he is going to start a company then do it right and stick to it.
Typical aries. :-) is he? U do not have to worry about him a bit. Because, as he always does, he would come up with many ideas, but will not implement anything. So no loss. Just tell him not to tell u those things unless and until he is serious about it.inform him that becoming a successful business man is not as easy as it looks and ask him to earn $1000 without spending more than $100 and he would get the idea of what business is all about. To be honest, its not easy to change someone s thinking that easily either. Even i have the same tendency. but i won t keep saying it to others unless i am sure about doing it. U know what, u can suggest him that he can start up a business analyst firm where he can guide others about the pros and cons of a client s business when they approach him. this way, he will start seeing all the + and - of every business. :-)
You are looking at a lifetime of this sort of behavior. If you love this man, enjoy his imagination and enthusiasm and don t mind financially supporting him, yourself and any children, then let him move in with you.Otherwise, step back for a moment and ask yourself if you are prepared to be the only grown-up in your relationship. See the future?It is fruitless to try to change him or to tether that energy, and you made a telling point, he doesn t follow through.Run in the other direction and find someone who shares your values and who can commit.
